Afro hip-hop star, Segun Osaniyi,
also known as Lord of Ajasa, and
Funmi, his wife, talk about their
five-year-old marriage
How did you meet your wife?
Ajasa: I met her through a mutual
friend of ours. when I was staying
at Bariga, Lagos State. She was
living with her parents then at Fola
Agoro, Akoka, Lagos. They came to
my house to get something when I
saw her. We started
communicating from that moment.
How did you eventually get
married?
Ajasa: The day I saw her, I told our
mutual friend that she had brought
my wife and we all laughed over it.
It was a joke. From there, we
started dating.
What was your reaction when he
asked you to marry him?
Funmi: I was in school then and
was not yet prepared for that. We
dated for about five years. He told
me to give him a child if I truly
loved him. I told him to let me
focus on my exams. He was
becoming a star and ladies were
running after him. I told him to
give me some time. After thinking
and praying about it, I told my
mother and the family agreed.
Were there oppositions from family
members?
Ajasa: My family was not around; I
was the only one in Nigeria and
my mother was in the United
States of America. No one wanted
their daughter to marry an artiste,
because they believed we are not
responsible. I asked her if she was
willing to marry me, she accepted
and was able to convince her
family.
Funmi: My parents said I could not
marry a musician. I tried to
convince them that he is a good
person. My mother was about
travelling abroad then and I told
Ajasa. His mother called my
mother and both of them talked
about it. My father did not say
anything about it. They are best of
friends now.
How long did you court before you
got married?
Ajasa: We dated for about five or
six years before we got married
and we have been married for five
years. We have two children, both
boys.
Did marriage take away your
freedom?
Ajasa: It is normal. There was a
change of lifestyle from being a
bachelor to a married man.
Everything had to change. I did not
prepare for it but it came. Part of
what you have to face is to take
care of your kids and know when
they are back from school. When I
was a bachelor, I could stay out
late, but I cannot do that now. I
also have to focus on my career.
That is why some men are scared
of getting married.
How did you adjust to married life?
Funmi: Though I had male friends
before I met him, my husband was
the first man to deflower me. I had
to change my phone number to let
those male friends know that I was
married. This is because a lot of
things change about people when
they get married.
How do you spend time with your
family?
Ajasa: Being a musician is
interesting and I do not have to
work for anyone. I can decide to
stay in my house and relax with
my family.
How do you handle advances from
ladies?
Ajasa: The attention was not like
when I was not married. There is a
limit to what you can do when you
are married. I would not say I do
not have female admirers, but I am
close to my family now more than
anybody.
Do you get jealous of his female
fans?
Funmi: It is normal, even people
who are not celebrities get jealous.
I am used to that, but when we got
married, some ladies used to call
him on phone and some had the
guts to call my line and request to
talk to him. We went to a club
sometime and he introduced me to
his friends as his wife. I was
pregnant then. One of the ladies
was hitting at him behind me.
How has your marriage fared?
Funmi: It has been good, but I will
not say it is due to what I have
done. Initially, when we got
married, we used to fight a lot, but
now we understand each other.
Are there challenges you faced?
Ajasa: Challenges are part of life.
You have to take care of your wife
and children. Their welfare comes
first before anything. Everything
was about me as a bachelor, but
not anymore.
How would you describe your
husband?
Funmi: He is like any other man
when he is in his studio at home,
he does not like disturbances. He
is caring and he helps me out in
cooking.
What do you do to get each other
angry?
Ajasa: When you are with someone,
you would always quarrel. When
we were newly married, we had a
lot of misunderstandings but we
still settled them. That brought us
closer to each other. We had the
motivation to make the marriage
work. No one is perfect.
Funmi: Sometimes, when I cook for
my son and the boy does not want
to eat that particular food, Ajasa
would tell me to give him whatever
he wants. I always get angry
because I feel we should train the
boy to appreciate whatever he is
being given.
Do you run a joint account?
Ajasa: She has her own account, I
have mine but we have a family
account. Whenever I get any
money, I deposit it in the family
account. We are both signatories
to the family account, but I rarely
access the account.
Who apologises when there is a
quarrel?
Ajasa: When we have a
misunderstanding, we keep it to
ourselves. Though it would last for
a little while, we make sure that
everything reverses to the normal
situation. We do not discuss our
problems and issues with other
people.
What advice would you give to
celebrity spouses?
Funmi: They should understand
their spouses. They should put
God first in their marriages and
exercise patience with their
spouses. Misunderstanding would
come in a marriage, but it takes
wisdom to settle it.
What would you say are the causes
of divorce?
Ajasa: Most of us are not tolerant
and patient. Some people do not
know what they are going into
when they are getting married. I
did not know what I was getting
into until I finally got married. As
a celebrity, you have to sacrifice
one thing for the other.
What pet names do you call each
other?
Ajasa: Sometimes, I call her Honey
or Funmi.
Funmi: I call him Honey or by his
name, Segun.
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